Friday, 25 April 2014

One Year just went by. Or did it?



With a lot of expectations, and dreams in mind, when I left home last year, it was my Big Step into the real world. Yes, Real world. I emphasize on the word “Real” because as much as we claim that we can survive the hardships in life, unless and until you are out there alone and fighting it yourself, you really cannot say much. You can only claim. So all this while, when at Home, how could I be alone? There was a shield of care, warmth and love, and I really did not know how it would be without the most awesome people by my side.

I was only excited, rather than worried...That goes with my image of a “Strong Girl”. Isn’t it? But really, excited to live each day as it comes, to see how it feels like to be out of your comfort zone, without knowing anyone around. It was like starting from the scratch …making new bonds and lasting relationships. And obviously, a lot goes into that: time, and attention.

Like always, my Mom had to make sure I am “deported” systematically, so she had to come to drop me off. Like obviously. You cannot do much about it. She has always been like this …the over protective one! And later complaints how I am always dependent on her …like come on! You spoon feed me all the time Momma! My sister came too. She never accepts it, but she gets worried for me too …like come on! I am the elder one, I feel otherwise so many times. So it really didn’t strike me that I will be left alone till the day these guys went back. And then it hit me! Whoa! Hello Priyanka!

I may be making it quite a big deal now. Was I pretty chilled out back then? Maybe. But what I see when I look back today, is someone who could not imagine the idea of spending a weekend by herself or having a meal alone, forget living alone. I have come a long way. Well everyone evolves. Eventually. But then is it that big a deal? Some may prefer not to even think about it, that’s how insignificant it is for them! While the others, like me, can write an entire blog post about the “Evolution”. Everyone has their own way. 

I hear people saying how time just flew by. We just did not realize, and it was already a year. I use the quote myself sometimes. But to think about it, I realize it did not just fly by …it never does …it happened. I lived every day, I experienced everything, all the laughter …smile …feel-good-factor …love …hatred …anger … lasted their due amount, before I labelled it as memories: pleasant or otherwise. I stuck up on days, on the sad & weird things, I laughed for months on the same old jokes, I cried on the silliest of things. So it did not really just vanish into thin air, but I made all that appear so …because we battle it out …like a Boss! So time passes at its usual pace, we associate differently with different things. It is always “US” …wow! So almost a year now, and there are days when I feel how different everything has become and how I want to run back …only to realize this is a stage in Life, and like everyone else I have to manage it. Well, it is not that big a deal. Everyone else seems to do just fine. I am getting better. Oh yes! All happy experiences in the end! The happy-ending type. Woot!

My college and the people I met played quite a role to make me feel that the time just “flew by” …because unless and until you are not comfortable around people and are not yourself, how will your mind be at ease? How are you supposed to be content? Or learn well? Or just develop yourself? But then not all of them are the ones you like …there are a few faces you cannot stand, a few you wish to punch hard, or a few you just feel pity on! But in the end, you learn. You get to see the variety God has created! 

I am an independent person today. Almost. And it will not be very difficult the next time. Or the time after that. The first time is always the toughest, and the most memorable. In almost everything. And once you survive the first retard moving-out phase, the others follow. And feel like a cakewalk. I can say that because presently I am struggling with another city: my second – Cochin. But I am glad the first one was that exciting, that new, that “Manipal-y”!! :)


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