We have always imagined the perfect. We always strive for
the perfections. We only want the very best to happen to us. We have been
fortunate to inch closer to perfection.
But is it always perfect? Is it always easy? A cakewalk?
I am afraid not. Because perfection is a concept. A unique
concept. But many of us do live it …almost live it …a few are near it …the
others are not too distant. And there are a few who are far away. Very far.
There are perfect individuals. Almost perfect ones too. They
have almost everything one needs, or one can dream of. They are in a place in
life where they are glad, they are content. Contrast next. There are the
NOTperfect ones. They don’t know how to move ahead. Every second step is a
struggle. Every new day is a battle. But do they give up? Oh no. they are
trying to find their own perfection.
There are perfect relationships. The bright ones, the vibrant
ones, who are out there – not afraid of what tomorrow brings, they know nothing
can dampen their existence. And then there are the ones who are constantly
grinded – NOTperfect. Nowhere closer. They are lost …trying to carve out their own
paths. There are continuous fights, and abuses, oh also! …a few beatings. Do they
give up? Some of them do. The others are too afraid to let go. They have a
strange hope of finding their own bit of perfection.
Sigh perfection!
Why perfection?
There are perfect homes. Loving parents and obedient
children. Happy faces and wishes fulfilled. Up-to-date fashion knowledge and
glamor quotient. Sweet. Next, the almost-perfect ones. Striving to become the
best. And the okay ones. These are the ones who are trying to be content.
And then there are those NOTperfect homes. They don’t know
what having a family feels like …what togetherness is. They know something is
missing, they know they can never be perfect. It is weird to imagine homes
which are not happy. Homes where there is less of warmth, and more of anger. Homes
which negate the essence of their very existence. But do they stop living? Do they
stop dreaming? I am afraid not. Because they know …somewhere down the lane,
they will either find their perfect world, or give up on the concept of perfection.
So what is it that keeps the NOTperfect ones moving? Hope? Belief?
Or may be a desire …a distant, difficult desire to become perfect!
But is perfection enough? Though we may feel so, it is not. Really.
We all have heard the philosophy “Imperfections are
beautiful”. But only a few of us know how difficult it is to be NOTperfect, and
still go out there in front of the world and smile. More so laugh. Act like you
are the perfect ones too. It pains. It hurts. But you have to continue to
smile.
Why?
Cry out if you are hurt. It doesn’t show how weak you are. It
only shows how you have accepted your imperfection. It is not a sin to be
imperfect. It is only a temporary state. The moment you accept that some things
are the best the way they are, you are at peace. Instead, you can work on the other
almost-perfect things in life …in the end what do you want? Perfection is it?
Go for it. But not after losing the calmness of your mind …
But after winning over the feeling of being “NOTperfect”.
Simple way of putting the concept of Perfection and related aspects is appreciated.
ReplyDeleteCould see a few contradictions and then a wholesome sounding conclusion.
Perfection does not have a standardized definition leave alone exact. It differs even though affected by the overall world view. At core, it is an individual concept with a lot depending on the construction of definition. In your case "They have almost everything one needs, or one can dream of." might form the definition of perfection. It reminds one of charvaka philosophy. But, it might not be someone else's construction of perfection's definition. Similarly, you could look at the definition of a perfect home having up to date glamor quotient., etc. These might not be a part of someone's vision of perfection. Thus, the issue could be settled at the individual level, something you hint at before departing towards the part of the article or blog that talks about non-perfection.
Reminds me of those lines, "Na mein jeevti, na mariyo mein; birah mharo rog, bawri bolein log". While, people decide that waiting for years for her balma, the soul is bawri, it is neither alive nor dead. But, it is for the soul to decide whether it has achieved the perfection of being a sajni by waiting continuously or remained imperfect because its saajan has not arrived yet.
Rudresh Kaul: Thank you for taking out time to read it Sir jee! :)
DeleteAppreciate it.
You have beautiful thoughts, and your ability to put it in words is amazing. The lines you have mentioned are deep.